How is it cheating if both parties of a couple are present, consenting, and they, THE COUPLE, doesn't consider it cheating? Who are you to say what's ok and what's not ok for other people's relationship?
He's not saying what's okay or not okay with other people's relationships. He prefaced the statement with "I guess I'm different" which shows the following sentence is his opinion. Jeez guys, leave him alone.
No, he didn't preface the statement. First of all, because they are two different sentences. "I guess I'm different." and "Cheating is cheating, no way around it." Now, if he had said, "I guess I'm different because I view that as cheating," then that would have been him expressing his opinion.
Oh, and FYI, the actual definition of cheating is to violate rules. So if your relationship's rules are that threesomes are ok with you, your partner, and a third, then you're not violating rules. Now, if you have sex with someone outside if your relationship without your partner there, then it's cheating. Or, the rules could be to ask first before having sex with someone other than your partner. If you fail to do that, even though your relationship "rules" allow you to have sex with
No, I believe I said that whatever rules are agreed upon by both parties of relationship is what it's ok for THAT relationship. I was giving examples. And as far as knowing what preface means... Yes, I do. What he said, "You're ok with out being another girl? I guess I'm different. Cheating is cheating, no way around it," could easily be interpreted as the middle sentence answering or following the first.
As in, he guesses he's different because he isn't ok with it, even if it's another girl. Which is perfectly fine. That is his prerogative, that is what a rule in HIS relationship would be and I respect that. What I don't respect and have an issue with is the blanket statement of "Cheating is cheating, no way around it."
Cheating is only cheating if you are breaking rules you and your partner agreed on. See my name on here? My spouse and I swing. Rule is we bring others into our bed, with the approval and participation of the other. Now, if my spouse or I decided to just bring someone home and demand a threesome, that doesn't work.
And to us, even though we have had sex with other people during our marriage, if one of us decides to go bang someone else without our spouse present or knowing, that's cheating. But I've known swinger couples that each one has free reign, as long as it's cleared beforehand.
If one of them is out, by themselves, and meets someone they want to go bang, all it requires is a phone call, letting their spouse know what's going on. Now, in my relationship, that's cheating. In theirs, it's not. Because every couple had different rules.
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